Grieving Dad on Father’s Day, we have not forgotten about you. You are loved tremendously.
I want to apologize for not giving you the time and dedication you deserve after your loss. When infertility and grief happen, many people reach out to the mother or the female in the relationship /marriage even though we both went through the same situation.
This is no one’s fault. Society has made us accustomed to not speaking about grief or ensuring that we comfort the Mom in the picture.
Some men feel like they have to be strong to take care of their grieving wife/partner and suppress their emotions. I was a victim of not checking in on my Husband because I assumed he was grieving better than I was.
I devote more time asking my Husband how he is grieving and coping. I’ve learned that he won’t tell me if he isn’t asked. I continue to learn what works for my Husband and his grieving process because we do not all grieve the same. I’m also proud of him for taking the step into receiving therapy himself. Nothing is sexier than a Man in therapy!
Therefore, this year we will butter them up with gifts and love!
Here are 10 gifts and activities that our Father’s will love to honor their greatness and the loss of their child.
1. A personalized necklace -I placed an order for this personalized necklace to be delivered. I can’t wait to see it! It will say our daughter’s name with her footprints. He’s actually been asking for a personalized necklace for a while.
2. Go Kart Racing – For the adrenaline junkies! Go-kart racing is so much fun! Some locations have karts that drive up to 50 mph!
3. Tickets to a favorite sporting event/concert – Baseball season recently started, and many venues are opening up after COVID. Are they a fan of Justin Bieber?
4. Deep blue fishing – Groupon again is my favorite website for these types of excursions. You can go fishing on the edge of the pier or go to the middle of the ocean and do some serious deep blue fishing. A lot of these charters have everything included; just bring a cooler.
5. Vintage Car show – This is a dedication to my Husband. He loves cars. If you’re in the State of Florida, there are so many vintage car shows.
6. Game night – Set up a game room with all of their favorite consoles or games, leave them some snacks and drinks, and let them enjoy time for themselves and their Fortnite obsession.
7. Books on grieving – “Grieving Dad’s to the Brink and Back” by Kelly Farley and David Dicola. A book about trues stories of grieving Father’s through a 2 year period and how they managed their grief.
8. A heartfelt letter to your significant other – Remind them how important he is and how grateful you are for all of his help and existence. He needs to hear this from you. He needs to know that all of his hard work matters. List 50 reasons why you love him or 25 reasons you are grateful for him.
9. Top Golf – For the Papas that enjoy spending time golfing but their wives don’t, Top Golf is for everyone. Lord, I break a sweat every time. They have great food and drinks. All you need in one stop.
10. Engraved watch – A watch with a personal message, that only he can see.
I hope these gifts and activities are helpful and make sure that whichever activity you do, he can escape at any time. These holidays are very overwhelming, and we want to give them a moment to decompress if they need to.
